| Turning Off Your Filter Solutions |
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| 1. Take stock of your personal filter. |
- When you have a negative reaction to something your partner says, write down exactly what happened and what feelings you had at the time. After a while, look back at your entries and see if you can notice any patterns emerging. Use this information to understand how your filter is working for or against you.
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| 2. Tackle this task together. |
- Sit down with your partner and make a commitment to not get offended when one of you is trying to explain how you are interpreting their actions or communication. Understand that this is a learning experience and you are working towards understanding each other as accurately and clearly as possibly.
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| 3. Honesty is the best policy. |
- Be honest about how your fears may be misconstruing your feelings. Try to find a positive outlook for each of those fears to counter-balance your emotions. Letting yourself dwell on what “could be” is never conducive to a positive result or feeling. Before assuming your feelings are justified, really take a candid look at the source.
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